Are You Stressing Already about the Holiday? How to Get Out of Your Holiday Rut— Create New Grooves that Outlive the Holiday Season

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Yep—soon it will be time for you to get: HOLIDAY SEASONAL STRESS DISORDER. Symptoms of this disorder include: Dreading being with some of your family members—and not knowing how to fend off those not so nice family comments about YOU! Feeling lonely and unhappy Spending too much Anxiety about last minute purchase decisions Eating too much Pleasing disorder Introducing your new intimate partner disorder Blended family and … [Read more...]

Secrets to Happiness: Make Peace with your Past to Enjoy your Present and Future

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Had rotten parents who abused, neglected, criticized or abandoned you? Or something happened to you later in life such as assault or rape? Or your disappointing love relationships hover overhead like mylar balloons glinting at your failures?  Well, here’s the good news: rotten pasts for any reasons don’t have to mean you will have an unhappy life. Positive psychology researchers such as Martin Seligman, author of the inspiring book, “Learned … [Read more...]

The Unspoken Problem about Domestic Violence and the Baltimore Ravens Ray Rice

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I am really angry—and sadden by how the media and the National Football League handled the domestic violence incident of Ray Rice against his fiancé, Janay Palmer, who is now his wife.  For those of you who don’t know the details, here is a recap. On Monday, September 8, 2014, the Baltimore Ravens football team released their running back, Ray Rice, from his contract not long after TMZ published on their website a video that showed running … [Read more...]

Dating Advice: Building Trust in Your Intuition. Part 2 of 2.

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It’s very scary to think you found Your Soul Mate, but you found instead Your Love Nightmare.  What went wrong? Getting smart about dating, mating, and relating relies, in part, on maintaining your ability to turn on your awareness lights about your observations of you and others.  You are most likely doing this already.  For example, when you meet a new person, you are making assessments about them.  You think:  Is this person kind, secure, … [Read more...]

Dating Advice Quiz: Building Trust in Your Love Intuition. Part 1 of 2.

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Had your heart broken? Don’t want to be hurt or duped again in love? People who triumphed over their previous bad relationships did at least these three things: They took time to understand their past relationships and childhood. They remained optimists about themselves and love. They knew they could lead happy lives without a love partner—but they kept their heart open to the possibility of finding love.   In my five years of … [Read more...]