Almost Smart Cookie

Love Entrapped
POSTED BY Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) Wish on 01/21/2010

Cookie's good time has been compromised!  What will she do?  What would you do if you had too many of your hopes riding on a relationship--and then had a BIG, FLASHING warning light to beware?  Think you'd be smart about it?  We all would like to think we'd heed the warning signs--but most of us have not at least once in our lives.  Cookie needs to take better charge of her emotional needs to connect, attach and fall in love. 


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Anonymous said...
Posted at: 01/23/2010 9:18 AM
I am guilty of doing this!!! Wow, when I see how I make excuses about accepting too much bad behavior from a man I can see what it is exactly that I am doing wrong. Can't change it yet but I can see it. Thanx
Anonymous said...
Posted at: 01/24/2010 9:34 AM
Talk about a red flag! Run, girl, run! How many times in my past did I see these warning signs and ignore them, only to be hurt in the end. Thanks for the reminder.
Anonymous said...
Posted at: 01/29/2010 12:39 PM
This is for everyone who acts like me and Cookie. I accept, accept, accetpt. Stop lying and say you see the warning lights. I might see something that upsets me but it doesn't register in my brain as a warning light. Hope you put something in your book about that.
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